I wrote this with the hope that you will be patient with God that you would trust in His timing even when you don’t understand .I wrote this with the hope that God’s process in your life will help you realise how blessed you truly are.
As I write this I realise I haven’t blogged in quite a bit-needless to say, a lot has happened in my life, I feel like I have grown so much in my perspectives of life.
Last year was ROUGH, I went through many painful transitions but God saw me through each and every one of them, I didn’t realise how broken I was. I will elaborate at a later stage what I went through,for now I have accepted and I am at peace and for me that means so much right now.
I once watched this video that states that everyone is in their own time zone in life. Basically it’s similiar to saying one must run their own race. I didn’t really take it to heart then but this year I am able to appreciate that phrase so much more.
‘Our journey in life is different : we are not made to be identical, we aren’t made to look the same , get married at the same time; our uniqueness affords for us to reach certain milestones at different times of our lives.
Make peace with how your life looks currently, make peace with the stage you are in currently-will it change?
Yes, ofcourse! You aren’t 2 years anymore right? You grew up and started making up your own mind and forming your own views on things-life has progressed, so why do you feel like you haven’t progressed? The problem we all have is that we want to be better or further than someone who we think has it all together,that’s the issue we all have-competitiveness and feelings of inadequacy.
Accept the stage of your life you are in, it doesn’t mean that it won’t change, but accept that currently this is YOUR time zone,it’ll change as you transition to different phases of your life.
One way I have helped myself to accept my stage of my life is by really truly being in it: I limit the people who have access to my phase-I believe in rising silently. The people who are in my life currently are people God has allowed in and trust me they are helping me towards the next phase of my life.
The other way I help myself to accept the stage I am in is by limiting my exposure to people who are in time zones that I aspire to be in. I realised this created feelings of inadequacy and feelings of stagnancy which were all not true-I couldn’t appreciate my own growth because I was too focused on other people, I made those people my standard instead of focusing on the standard God has set for my life-Jesus!
The last way I have accepted my own time zone is by relishing in my achievements at that moment. I introspect on my victories and take all of them in. My husband always says when life throws a curveball-take out your trophies of life and see what God has pulled you from,derive joy and strength for the challenge from there.
Can I tell you something?
You have survived heavy ordeals, made mistakes but overcame; survived brokenness and shame, tripped and fell-sometimes you stayed in the muck, sometimes you joined others in their muck-but you got up, you picked yourself up with the little endurance left and kept on moving forward-you proved to yourself and to everyone else that the fight in you is still intact and you aren’t ready to quit!
You aren’t a quitter, grab your big girl or boy underwear and keep moving!
You are doing well!
You are making it!
As I sit typing this I am overwhelmed by the faithfulness of the Lord. We are in the 12th month of the year-the Lord has carried me faithfully. I am overwhelmed by the faithfulness of God-I am in awe of how his promises over my life have manifested and are still manifesting.
I had a tough year this year- I faced financial and physical loss. There were moments I felt like the Lord couldn’t hear my prayers anymore, there were moments I felt so numb-so broken. I remember how my tears became my prayer before the Lord, I cried this year like no other year- I sowed heavily through my tears this year. BUT GOD watered that tear offering and heard my prayers-he answered all my prayers.
Friends-things I asked the Lord for, 6 years ago-I am seeing the manifestation now. I am seeing salvation all around me. People are being led to the Lord.
The most beautiful of these is when my mother gave her life to the Lord Jesus, I led her to the Lord. What a beautiful and powerful moment-that as the fruit of her womb I could lead her to be born again of God. I wish you could capture my heart and how humbled I was when that happened-I still am.
Friends, I lost friendships this year- people I thought were my friends became strangers- in all that God showed me that he has always and will always be my everlasting friend. God brought new friendships in my life with people he chose for me- people who genuinely love me, people who understand me-people who appreciate me.
I am overwhelmed, I have no words-God has been and is still with me.
I have experienced immense favour -I have seen the favour of the Lord overtake me, I have seen God transform the hardest of hearts to become softened just for me. I have stepped in places this year that I only could access many years from now.
I am boasting about what the Lord has done for me- in my own strength I honestly couldn’t possess what I have-in my own strength I couldn’t rise up like I had this year. Jehovah Shammah is truly present in our lives, he is ever faithful.
Trust in the Lord beloved-remain faithful to Him, he is with you, he will never leave nor forsake you. He promises to repay you for the years that the locust has eaten, he promises that you will have plenty to eat-until you are fully satisfied, he promises that you will not face shame! (Joel 2:25-27)
As I type this God has given us a huge gift this year- he has given me something I honestly would’ve worked my whole life to get. I am humbled that the King of Glory knows our deepest desires and he is faithful to reward us-God owns everything-I am not afraid anymore to ask him for what my heart desires-he is my father after all-he is a bringer of good things, he owns everything!
Trust in the Lord, for surely you will not be put to shame.
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I decided to read some of my blog posts and I even went searching for previous attempts that I had posted on other sites…I just smiled. I smiled because I was taken aback at the growth. I can…
Friendship is not as complicated as we make it seem– it’s simple really, two people who have something in common and decide to further their interest by communicating more and spending quality time together to grow in other aspects of their lives together.
One thing I have learnt about friendships is that not everyone who likes you wants to pursue a friendship with you! Sometimes our self-centredness causes us to overlook the obvious, some people just like your company but they don’t see themselves pursuing anything further than that. The only way to realise this is to stop looking for people’s affirmation in showing you that you are an awesome person and start believing it for yourself.
I honestly would have saved myself so much heartache had I realised how great a person I was. We tend to expect others to tell us how awesome we are instead of telling ourselves! We spend time with people who aren’t invested in us- just to hear those words.
I have also realised that friendships run their course overtime. They have to if you think about it- the things you were interested in whilst in highschool aren’t necessarily what you may be interested in now. You honestly can’t drag people into the things you are interested in now if they don’t want to come along with you. The best thing you can do for yourself and them is to let the friendship go. We struggle to let go of people who add no value into our lives and fight to keep them on a leash and tire ourselves dragging someone who is screaming for you to let them go…goodness,let them go! I am not in contact with some of my highschool and even varsity friends because frankly the friendship has run its course-I won’t be caught dead dragging someone with me when I can open my heart and allow people into my life who actually want to be in it and who want to share my new interests.
My most long-lasting friendships to date are those founded on Christ. I cannot emphasise how much joy I feel knowing that there is a friend who loves Jesus as much as I do. When we come together there is no effort-we just click, we just continue on from where we left off even if we hadn’t seen each other in years! This has got to be my best friendships yet- there is no grudge-holding, no one to remind you that you forgot their birthday or that you haven’t been in contact-there is no guilt in this friendship because this person is so focused on building their friendship with Christ that they don’t hold it against you when you fall short of doing things for them. I can’t describe what a blessing this friendship is because it’s like your heart beats in unison, all you talk about is the present and future, this friendship builds you up to grow more in Christ, to be a better person for humanity and to continue striving towards your purpose on this earth!
Some friendships fail because you feel like you have been taken for granted. We all have that friend who calls you just to borrow money or who calls you because you are their agony aunt! I especially can’t deal with this type of friendship because the person will act all downtrodden, they will seem helpless and hopeless without you-drain you of the little joy you have and dump all their heaped up emotional garbage for you to sort out-if that wasn’t enough, run for the hills and continue with life with other people who see them in their peak and leave you in the dust to sort through the mess that they have left with you! They will tell you about all the fun they had with so and so, all their trips and expeditions (as if you don’t have a life) and leave you drained.
The one friendship I have learnt to be VERY weary of is the manipulative one. This person knows the buttons to push, they know how loving and caring you are and they use that to their advantage. This person will subtly remind you that without you they have no one, they will bring your hopes up-make you seem like you are the only true friend they have and once they are done or have gotten what they wanted-leave! These are the dangerous ones because they bring false hope-they make you believe that the friendship you have has a future, they make you believe that you are the best thing in their life-whilst you are still on that high, you see them doing the same thing to someone else and totally ignoring you. The best way to deal with this friend is to distance yourself from it. In this friendship, the person always wants their victims close by in order to feel good about themselves. Run from this person, they have a way of ensnaring you back into their net when you try to exit.
Like I said previously, friendships are very simple. Always ask yourself one thing with all your friendships- is it building me or is it tearing me down.
If it is tearing you down, cut it off! Don’t even try and justify it or sit and analyse it-just cut it off- it’s like these people can sense once you start creating distance.
Nurture the friendships that build you up-very often we neglect those who truly celebrate us and who take the time to value us.
Please show some appreciation for the friends who have been there for you ,friends who have told you the truth even when it hurts and friends who have tolerated all your baggage and never left your side-it is very disheartening if this friendships fails because finding people who are truly authentic is very hard to come by.