I struggle to understand why we hurt ourselves so much by doing this-forcing people to like us. I want you to take the time to think about someone you dislike, is there ANYTHING that person can do to make you like them? Chances are…nothing right? Then why bother trying to be liked by someone who dislikes you?
We spend energy, time, and sometimes money impressing people who really don’t get moved by our presence. Think about that, their lives don’t get moved by your presence-meaning they don’t even acknowledge your existence! They really don’t care about you-but there you are breaking your back forcing yourself to be liked when essentially-you aren’t!
Let me ask you again, why do you bother?
You bother because you want affirmation: you want to be acknowledged by them, they hold some power over your life and you want to feel accepted, loved and normal. Someone out there holds your value in their hands because you have given your value over to them.
What if someone valued you so much that they weren’t moved by your mistakes or any flaws that form who you are?
Thing is beloved you already ARE loved, you already ARE accepted and most of all Jesus doesn’t even want anything in return. You are loved unconditionally, no river is too wide, ocean too deep, mountain too high to express the depth, height, and width that is found in God’s love.
If you are cheapening yourself by thinking that you can buy acceptance then you are living a lie. Emotions can’t be bought, they are felt.Love cannot be expressed only- it is experienced.
When people love you their actions will demonstrate what’s in their hearts.
STOP focusing on people who are blocking your progression, if someone doesn’t like you, please send them off with a a basket full of goodies for their journey, why be bitter when they are creating space for a truckload of blessings?
Get to a point in your life whereby people’s departure out of your life doesn’t cause you to have a breakdown.
Always assess, if you did all you could and were not at fault-PLEASE open the front door FOR THEM and wish them well.
Let go of what needs to go and embrace what is coming to bless you.
You are enough
You are loved
You are priceless, treat yourself as such